← paulsfriends.com · Why
A friends-page model

Keep your friends.
Leave the platform.

Facebook bundled four things together so completely that quitting felt impossible. This site is the prototype that unbundles them — into pieces you can host, hand-edit, and outlive any single company.

01The four things Facebook owns

A friend graph, a conversation history, your authored content, and your daily attention — tied together so tightly that the cost of leaving was the loss of all of them at once.

For roughly twenty years, the platform held all four hostage to each other. Walk away and you lost not just the scroll feed but the address book, the long threads, the photos, the birthdays, the way old friends found you again after a decade.

That bundling was a business model, not a law of physics. Each piece can be separated, exported, and rehoused on infrastructure you control.

PILLAR 01

Friend directory

A flat, searchable, editable list of every person you've connected with. Names, locations, mutuals, notes — the address book.

Lives at /facebook/list/

PILLAR 02

Conversation

Threaded discussion by topic, not by feed. Slow, considered, archived. A bulletin board, not a casino.

Lives at austinspring.com/bbs

PILLAR 03

Long-form profiles

Hand-written essays about the people in your life, pulled from public posts, written with care. Not the algorithm's "On This Day."

Lives at /marcos-goodman/, /roger-mueller/

PILLAR 04

Your attention

Goes back to you. There is no infinite scroll. There is no algorithm. There is no notification dot manufactured to pull you back in.

Lives nowhere. That's the point.

02What the prototype shows

paulsfriends.com is a single person's working copy of the model. 4,841 friends, 9,843 contacts, 1,675 archived posts, two hand-written profiles, and a wall that pulls in the live BBS.

The wall replaces the feed. Topical conferences replace the algorithm. Long-form profiles replace the timeline. Your contact list stays in your own filesystem, exported once and yours forever.

03How it compares

Side by side, the swap looks like a downgrade in quantity and an upgrade in quality. That's the trade.

Axis
Facebook
This model
Who owns the directory?
Meta
You, locally
Where do conversations live?
In a feed
In topical conferences
How is content surfaced?
Engagement-optimized algorithm
By subject and by hand
What persists?
What the platform decides
Everything you author
What's the business model?
Selling your attention
A static site and a $5 VPS
How do you leave?
You lose your network
You're already out

04What you'd need to run your own

The whole stack is intentionally cheap and boring. Vanilla HTML, vanilla JS, JSON files. No build step. No framework. No NPM install.

The prototype is live. The pattern is portable.

Browse the wall, read a profile, look at the friend list, then decide whether you want one of your own.

Open the wall → Build your own

05Status of the prototype as of today

Concrete numbers as of 2026-05-06. Every piece is live, owned, exportable, and not gated by anybody’s API.

06The unspoken thing

A real friends page is more like a yearbook than a newsfeed. It rewards re-reading, not refreshing.

Facebook taught a generation that "keeping in touch" meant a daily scroll past someone's vacation pictures. That isn't keeping in touch. That's being kept in passive proximity, which is a much weaker thing.

The model here aims for fewer, slower, longer interactions: a short essay about a friend, a single long thread on the BBS, a quarterly look at the directory. It's closer to how friendship actually worked before the platform monetized it.

It probably won't replace Facebook for billions of people. It doesn't need to. It just needs to work for one person, one circle, one alumni group, one family at a time.